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The Biblical Design for Marriage:
The Creation, Distortion and Redemption of Equality,
Differentiation, Unity and Complementarity
Paul
A. Twelker
Professor Emeritus of Psychology
Trinity College
Trinity International University
Chapter 2: Jewish
Tradition and Sexuality
What Was The Role of Sex in
Israelite and Jewish Tradition?
What Were Considered
Appropriate Sexual Practices in Marriage?
Reflections
What Was The Role of Sex in
Israelite and Jewish Tradition?
Now that the Israelite culture has been described, I
now want to focus on the role of sex in Israelite and
Jewish tradition. This is an important topic since
Christian teachings are moored in Jewish thought and
tradition, which is itself influenced by other cultures.
In many contemporary Christian writings, readers are told
that sex, as seen in the Old Testament, was a valuable
gift from God and included both procreative and
pleasurable purposes. We are told that marriage was
viewed by the Jews as a divinely ordained way for men and
women to satisfy their emotional and sexual needs and to
continue the race. Yet, there are many Jewish writers who
take the opposite view and claim that Judaism was
sexually repressive. The basis of sexual repression,
these writers claim, was grounded in the biblical laws of
sexual purity.
The priestly purity code stated that sexual
intercourse caused ritual impurity for one day (Lev.
15:16-18). This seems strange in light of the repeated
blessings of fertility in Genesis ("be fruitful and
multiply"). Why was sexual intercourse connected
with ritual defilement? Biale (1992) asks if this
reflects a negative attitude toward sexuality. The
priests regarded only certain bodily fluids as defiling:
semen, menstrual blood, and discharges from genital
disease. Other fluids, such as bleeding from an ordinary
flesh wound, urine, feces, saliva or mucus, did not
defile. Semen and menstrual blood were seen as associated
with new life and hence, as having enormous power. Biale
suggests that the priests believed that a man who had
ejaculated temporarily loses his vital power and thus
temporarily acquires a state of impurity which symbolizes
a brief loss of fertility which is symbolically
equivalent to death. Further, a women who menstruated
temporarily lost her vital power. Her state of impurity
was longer, seven days, since the menstrual flow was
longer.
The question remains: did the purity code reflect a
negative attitude toward sexuality? Not really. All of
the Levitical laws focused on procreative sex. Anything
that was nonprocreative or perceived to be an affront to
procreation was condemned: incest, adultery, bestiality,
homosexuality, child sacrifice, and sex during
menstruation. Most of these practices were legal or at
least tolerated among many of the Jew's pagan neighbors.
The boundaries imposed by Levitical law did not represent
a negative attitude toward sexuality as much as they
represented awe and respect for fertility and the
creative act.
For people, as opposed to animals, to reproduce is
to become a partner with the divine, to act in God's
"image." Since fertility represents divine
power, to reveal one's reproductive source (one's
reproductive power, i.e., menstrual blood) means to
reveal something that is sacred. In the Garden story
in Genesis, it is said that to feel shame at one's
sexual nakedness is to be like God (Genesis 3:5 and
3:22). Since God's sexuality is thoroughly hidden,
"imitation" of the divine means that the
procreative organs and fluids are scrupulously
covered and controlled by the sexual prohibitions (Biale, 1992, pg. 30).
It seems that sex within boundaries was blessed and
encouraged. Since the sexual act had divine power
associated with it, respect for this power was fostered
by a time of impurity to serve as a reminder of this
sacredness. Although this does not represent a negative
attitude toward sexuality, it does not indicate that
Jewish tradition considered any sexual purpose beyond
procreation, e.g., pleasure.
In the book of Jubilees, which dates back to the
second century B.C., Adam and Eve meet one another for
the first time outside of the Garden. In fact, they enter
the Garden separately, Adam in 40 days, Eve in 80 days,
thus reflecting the days of purification for couples who
have just given birth to children. Since there is no
biblical record of children, it is unclear how Jubilees
bases this detail on the Levitical law. The important
point here is that Jubilees sees Eden as a holy site. The
couple who enters Eden must be pure since Eden has Temple
attributes. In this account, Adam and Eve have sexual
intercourse outside of the Garden as it builds on the
biblical motif of purity. A person who has sexual
emissions is unclean (Lev. 15:18) and unfit to eat sacred
food of the Temple (Lev. 22:4-7). The book of Jubilees
also outlawed sexual intercourse on the Sabbath, a point
that later rabbinic teaching disagreed with (Anderson,
1989).
Although these accounts and prohibitions could be seen
in light of a positive view toward sexuality, where sex
is placed in a proper perspective of awe and reverence,
it is nevertheless obvious that the writers of Jubilees
placed distinct boundaries around what behaviors are
permissible in a holy place. Eden cannot be both holy and
sexual at the same time.
Rabbinic Judaism saw Eden, not as a Temple, but as a
spot for divine blessing and joy. For them, the word,
Eden, and its root, referred to a provision of fertility
and blessing, sexuality and procreation (cf., Isa. 51:3).
In fact, in some early Semitic literature, the root word
for Eden can be used for the act of sexual union. Since
the rabbinic writers associated the end time with the
return of blessing and fertility, it was logically
consistent for them to characterize the
"first-time" as the origin of this blessing and
fertility.
Anderson (1989) suggests that rabbinic Jews believed
that they were holy (guddisin) because they were married
and had children. In other words, holiness referred to
the state of marriage. Aphrahat stated that one Jew
asserted that Christians were unclean because they did
not take wives. Rabbinic Judaism did not have a high
regard for celibacy because the celibate
"impaired" God's image. The rabbis believed
that procreation was a commanded act (Gen. 1:28).
Is there a place for sex for pleasure in the Jewish
tradition? Perhaps an answer will be found in the most
erotic text in the Jewish tradition, the Song of Songs.
This collection of poems are not directly concerned with
fertility, but instead explore "the tension between
desire and fulfillment" (Biale, 1992). In the Song
of Songs, the woman plays a sexually aggressive role:
- the bride searches the streets for her beloved
(3:1-4);
- she uses a bold, incestuous metaphor when she
suggests that she wishes her beloved were a
brother so that she could kiss him in public
without being despised (8:1)
- she yearns for the companionship of her beloved
(3:1).
- The bridegroom is revealed as one who anticipates
the arrival of the bride (2:14), recalls her
beauty (4:1-15), and extols the pleasure of
sexual embrace (5:1).
In the celebration of erotic desire, as long as the
sexual act is within legal boundaries, it seems that in
the early Jewish tradition, there is a place for sex for
procreation and pleasure. One cannot help but read the
Song of Songs without gaining the distinct impression
that sexual intimacies bring pleasure to the couple in
ways that are difficult to describe.
In the Babylonian Talmud, six benedictions are given
to the bride and groom. The sixth speaks of the pleasures
of the wedding event as well as sexual intercourse. These
joyful experiences included eating and drinking, the
wearing of festive apparel, annointings with oil,
bathing, and sexual union (Anderson, 1989). In fact,
rabbinic Jews thought that the restoration of their
nation would be characterized by the return of joyful
sounds, including those associated with a wedding (cf., Jer. 33:10-12).
Just as in our culture, where the scriptures are
examined and reinterpreted time and time again, so the
rabbis and other segments of Judaism added new meanings
to the Old Testament accounts of sexuality. Indeed, these
interpretations were suggested by the scriptures
themselves, especially the prophetic writings that
likened Israel to a wife and God as the husband (e.g.,
Ezek. 16:8). Here, human love seems to serve as a model
for the love of God and a description of our relationship
to him. But the unmistakable implication here, according
to Biale is that:
the love of God might come to compete with human
love. The marriage metaphor of the biblical covenant
demanded exclusive love between Israel and God:
monotheism is the theological version of monogamy.
Taken to an extreme unimaginable in biblical culture,
the exclusive love of God demanded by monotheism
might lead to the renunciation of physical sexuality
altogether (Biale, 1992, pg. 32).
Hence, as the notion of sexuality is traced down
through the Jewish tradition, and as it slams directly
into the early Christian thinking, we see changes that
represent a very negative view of physical sex. Sex no
longer is unequivocally affirmed, except in the strict
context of procreation. Sexual renunciation and
asceticism become increasingly valued through the ages.
Further, sex is seen as a problem because of the desire
and passion involved.
If for the Bible, sex was always an issue of
bodily practices and their cultic implications, for
the rabbis, the problem was not the body as such, but
desire, the physic state of the passions, that might
overpower the body. Where biblical culture had taken
desire for granted, rabbinic culture made desire
itself the subject of much discussion, both as
something necessary for the existence of the world
and as a potentially destructive, evil force...At the
heart of this discourse was a profoundly ambivalent
attitude toward sexuality as such, an ambivalence not
found in biblical sources (Biale, 1992, pg 35).
Many contemporary writers seem to represent Jewish
thinking as having its roots directly grounded in the
biblical text with nary a thought about the culture in
which they were emersed. Nothing could be further from
the truth. Although the Bible played an important part in
rabbinic Jewish thinking, it often provided no more than
proof texts for that thinking, while the major source of
ideas came from the culture. In one instance, the rabbis
passed a law requiring men (not women) to marry and have
children, with significant penalties for failure to keep
the law. This paralleled the Roman law mentioned earlier.
In these times, both Jewish and Roman societies had a
desperate need to increase population. The law had little
to do with the biblical mandate to be fruitful and
multiply--the Bible presented procreation as a blessing,
not a divine commandment.
Although it is true that other cultures influenced
Jewish thinking, it is a mistake to simplify the
situation in this way. McCabe (1917) points out that in
many cases, Jewish thinkers rejected ideas from their
neighbors when they conflicted with their established
traditions, even when their neighbors' ideas were more
enlightened. This was especially true in matters relating
to rights of women and the despotism of the husband. Even
though McCabe pictures Jewish tradition as
"semi-barbaric", and minimizes the Christian
doctrine of marriage and the influence of the Gospel on
individuals and societies, he does make a valid point
that Jewish thinkers were slow to change their customs,
even when doing so would have brought them closer to
God's will.
The Stoic philosophy paralleled rabbinic thinking.
They argued that the purpose of intercourse was
procreation and any sexual act for the sole sake of
pleasure was condemned. Further, any nonprocreative
sexual position or act was condemned as "against
nature". Pleasure was permitted only when it did not
lead to loss of control, since loss of control leading to
excessive sexual activity could supposedly reduce
fertility and harm the body. Stoics went so far as to
prescribe circumcision as a way of controlling sexual
appetites. Little wonder then we see Jews in the time of
Christ having intercourse only for procreative
purposes--once conception took place, intercourse ceased.
The author of the Wisdom of Solomon went even further and
praised barren women and permitted special favor to
eunuchs in the Temple, something against biblical law.
When the Gospel writer Matthew refers to eunuchs, it may
be implied that Jewish eunuchs existed in his time (Biale, 1992). Biale (1992) gives an interesting insight
that supports the notion that sexuality was affirmed in
rabbinic thinking. "Virtually all of the rabbis
adopted an older Jewish belief that Adam and Eve had sex
in the Garden." In their eyes, the Fall was
punishment for disobedience, not for the sin of
discovering sexuality. There was a blessing chanted in
marriage ceremonies that exclaimed, "Make happy the
loving friends, as you made your creature happy in the
Garden of Eden in the beginning." Biale states that
the happiness spoken of here is clearly sexual. But while
this view seems clearly affirmative, the rabbis countered
it with the view that heaven will be sexless:
...intercourse will no longer be necessary, since
there will no longer be any distance between God and
man; that is, with the messianic resurrection of the
dead, man will become immortal like God and will
therefore neither need to procreate nor suffer from
sexual desire (Biale, 1992, pg. 42).
Perhaps by the time of Christ, rabbis had introduced
the notion that there existed a continuum with
procreation (in a properly chaste manner) on the one end
and asexuality on the other. Between them could be found
ascetics and celibates who prepared the way for an
asexual heaven. For the vast majority of Jews,
procreation was the norm, but the rabbis clearly
attempted to set firm boundaries around the act,
boundaries that most certainly reflected the
improprieties of the free-for-all philosophies of the
Grecian and Roman cultures around the time of Christ.
The rabbis understood sexuality both as an instrument
for good and for evil. They saw the body itself as
neutral, but the passions that all humans possess from
birth could lead to evil and hence had to be controlled.
The rabbis used the term, yetzer ha-ra, to denote the
force that drives men toward sin. The rabbis understood
the term as meaning natural desire or passion while the
Bible uses the term to mean mind or thought (Biale,
1992). Some rabbis clearly went too far in their
rhetoric;
- one urged, "Know from whence you come--from
a smelly drop" (tippah seruha, meaning
semen);
- another claimed that the ten tribes were exiled
because they committed adultery by
"befouling their beds with 'semen that was
not theirs;'"
- one rabbi claimed that Eve had intercourse with
the serpent who injected her with
"filth";
- one rabbi urged Jews to avoid looking at or
speaking with women, including one's own wife!
Clearly, not all rabbis took such a dim view of
sex--many in fact extolled the virtues of legitimate
sexual companionship. Once again, rabbinic tradition is
not monolithic--many shades of negativism may be found in
the literature around the time of Christ.
The Stoics believed that the study of philosophy could
control the human passions while the rabbis believed that
the study of Torah was a way to channel sexual energy. In
other words, study was a means of sublimating sexual
desire. But there may have been more to it than that--a
great many rabbis probably believed that the study of
Torah held some magical properties. For example, some
believed that the study of Torah caused impotence, a
total redirection of sexual energy. According to Biale
(1992), the Palestinian rabbis urged young men to first
study the Torah and then marry. In contrast, the
Babylonian rabbis urged men to marry first and study
later, the reason being that sexual desire would not
detract them from their studies. This strategy was
probably seen as somewhat dysfunctional since many Torah
scholars left home for extended study leaves, despite the
laws that required them to have regular sexual
intercourse with their wives. From all this, it may be
inferred that sexuality could easily have been considered
as less than positive. We may also gain insight into the
attitudes of the rabbinic Jews by noting their attitudes
toward the Gentiles. Biale (1992) informs us that some
rabbis felt that the Jews did not suffer from the
hypersexuality of the Gentiles. Quoting one source, Biale
notes:
Israel's lust ceased when it stood at Mount Sinai
[and received the Torah], while the lust of the
idolatrous nations, which did not stand at Mount
Sinai, has not ceased. The idolaters are always to be
found with their neighbors' wives and when they can't
find their neighbors' wives, they find their
animals...They love the animals of the Jews even more
than their own wives (Biale, 1992, pg. 47).
As noted above, circumcision played a role in
lessening sexual desire, so it was thought. One rabbinic
text went so far as to say that the Gentiles were
hypersexual because they lacked the Torah and retained
their foreskins. "It is hard for a woman to separate
herself from an uncircumcised man with whom she has had
intercourse" (Biale, 1992, pg 48). Apparently, some
rabbis felt that circumcision made men less sexually
attractive which in turn reduced sexual drive. Some
rabbis went even further and suggested that some biblical heros, including Adam and Job, were born circumcised.
Again, we may conclude from these sources that for many
rabbis, and the Jewish people that followed them
sexuality had a distinct negative overtone. Sexual
passion was to be controlled since it could lead to sin.
Thus, circumcision as well as scholarly reading of Torah
were remedies for redirecting this negative energy.
Most certainly, the most important way of controlling
sexual energy for most Jews was marriage itself. But even
here we see differences. The more sexually ascetic
Palestinian Jews generally saw marriage as a defense
against sexual temptation, while their Babylonian
counterparts generally emphasized the emotional benefits.
The latter certainly represents a more relaxed and
positive view toward sexuality than the former.
What
Were Considered
Appropriate Sexual Practices in Marriage?
The Old Testament is relatively silent on the issue of
what sexual practices are appropriate in the marriage
relationship. Not so the rabbinic literature. Biale
(1992) suggests that two contrasting foci are noted:
modesty and moderation, on the one hand, and freedom to
engage in any act, as long as it is procreative, on the
other. One text goes so far as to allow a man to have
intercourse with his menstruating wife:
When one's wife menstruates, she is alone with him
at home. If he wishes to, he has intercourse with
her; if he does not wish, he does not have
intercourse with her. Does anyone see him or does
anyone know so they might say anything to him? He
fears only [God] who has commanded [the laws]
concerning menstruation (Biale, 1992, pg. 50).
Not all rabbis agreed on these matters. Some pronounce
extremely negative (and preposterous) consequences of
doing certain things during sexual intercourse:
- intercourse in the non-missionary position causes
lameness
- kissing "that place" produces dumbness
- conversing during intercourse produces deafness
- looking at "that place" leads to
blindness
- intercourse in the standing position may lead to
convulsions
- intercourse in the sitting position produces
spasms
- intercourse with the wife in the superior
position may produce diarrhea.
Against these pronouncements, other rabbis simply said
that "a man may do whatever he pleases with his
wife" as long as she is not coerced.
The emphasis on modesty, however, seems to be a common
element in all rabbinic writing. Most rabbis held that
intercourse should take place at night or in the dark. No
person was allowed to witness the act, and in one
writing, a holy man even chased away a fly. A minority of
rabbis allowed daytime intercourse, especially if a man
might be tired at night and unable to "perform
perfunctorily, and end up despising his wife" (Biale, 1992, pg. 52).
In first- and second-century Palestine, rabbis
required couples to have intercourse while fully clothed.
Yet in Babylon, rabbis required naked intercourse. Biale
suggests that the reason Palestinian Jews were more
modest was that the Roman culture emphasized modesty.
This explanation seems rather strange in light of the
destain rabbis held toward Rome.
The other emphasis that seems common in rabbinic
writings is moderation. It was believed that moderation
and self-control were signs of holiness. "Man has a
small member--if he starves it, it is satisfied, but if
he satisfies it, it remains starved" (Biale, 1992,
pg. 52).
Recall that the major reason a Jewish couple had
sexual intercourse was to procreate. However, the rabbis
attended to the woman's needs through a set of laws
called onah. These laws not only guaranteed every woman
the right to have regular sexual intercourse, they made
clear that the purpose of sex was to give pleasure. The
rabbis apparently believed that pleasure was necessary
for procreation and in fact, decided that the woman had a
greater capacity for passion than the man. The problem
was that women were not allowed to ask for sex, so it was
imperative that the man attend to the woman's sexual
needs in a sensitive manner. The rabbis used Job 5:24 to
defend their position:
For you will know that your tent is secure, for
you will visit your abode and fear no loss. You will
know also that your descendants will be many and your
offspring as the grass of the earth. You will come to
the grave in full vigor. like the stacking of grain
in its season.
For the rabbis, this passage referred to conjugal
visits before a journey, and from the broader context,
this interpretation seems appropriate. The passage
clearly links "visiting your abode" with
procreation, with security (peace), and with sexual
vitality during old age. The onah first appeared when the
Palestinian mishnaic schools were trying to prevent
scholars from staying away from their home for extended
periods of time.
The conclusion that the rabbis held positive views
toward sexuality as evidenced by onah must be tempered by
the recognition that another set of laws, the niddah,
prescribed a period of abstinence after menstruation of
twelve to fourteen days, twice the biblical injunction.
Interestingly enough, the resumption of sexual activity
coincided with the greatest probability of fertility of
the woman.
So far, the evidence concerning the role of pleasure
in sexuality seems mixed. Below are listed a number of
other rules or practices promoted by the rabbis:
- marital sex was mandated even for infertile
women;
- a wide variety of sexual practices designed
largely for pleasure were permitted;
- coitus interruptus was opposed;
- nonvaginal intercourse (anal and oral, for
example) was frowned upon, but not technically
forbidden;
- masturbation was condemned without
reservation--it was considered a heinous crime;
- holding the penis during urination was also
considered to lead to the possibility of
masturbation, and was opposed.
Biale (1992) suggests that the rabbis did not reject
male pleasure, but that pleasure had to be in the context
of a greater purpose, i.e., procreation. Pleasure was not
a legitimate end in itself. To this end, men had to
control their sexual drive through the study of Torah,
through moderation and modesty, and through marriage. But
it seems clear that even within marriage, some rabbis
conceived of sexual drive as an ambivalent and
potentially dangerous force.
Biale points out that with the destruction of the
temple, biblical prophecy vanished. God was not directly
accessible as He had once been. The consequence of this
was that the rabbis:
'secularized' the purity laws by applying them to
all areas of life, as opposed to just the sacred site
of the cult...Purity now became necessary for the
sake of the body, rather than for the sake of the
cult (Biale, 1992).
This revision seems to be reflected in New Testament
writings:
Or do you not know that your body is a temple of
the Holy Spirit who is in you, whom you have from
God, and that you are not your own? I Cor 6:19)
For we are the temple of the living God...(II Cor
6:16).
Apparently, some rabbis were comfortable with this
change: for them, it meant that when sexual relations
were proper, God's presence stood between husband and
wife. For other rabbis, sexuality was much too dangerous,
even within marriage. The destruction of the temple, for
them, meant that cultic constraints on sexual drive no
longer operated. Biale argues concisely that:
the intimate role of the divine in human
sexuality, which was so central in biblical theology,
was now shattered with God himself now in exile with
the Jewish people. In this view, the body cannot
serve as a substitute Temple, since, even within
marriage sexuality remains an ambivalent and
dangerous desire (Biale, 1992, pg. 558).
In summary, it may be conjectured that at the time of
Christ, rabbinic thought about sexuality was ambivalent.
On the one hand, rabbis thought that the human being
could focus their sexual drive toward procreation within
marriage, and as such, "the erotic body becomes the
site where the divine can still be found in this
world" as compared with its previous residence
within the temple. Counterbalancing this view was the
notion, paralleling currently popular Greco-Roman
thought, that sexuality was a "thoroughly secular,
material activity that conflicted with the life of the
spirit" (Biale, 1992, pg. 58). For these rabbis, the
study of Torah was a virtue equal to or even surpassing
procreation, and in fact, emanated from the same sexual
drive. Even if they could not support celibacy, their
pronouncements and commentaries on the biblical texts
allowed freedom for the young Jewish man to forgo sexual
relations with his wife for extended periods. The reader
is referred to Biale (1992) for a fascinating overview of
the evolution of Jewish thought about sexuality in later
historical periods.
Reflections
Just as marriage was a constantly changing
institution, so likewise the Israelite view of sexuality
evolved throughout the ages. Further, at any given point
in time, different segments of Israelite culture
perceived of sexuality differently. Evangelical writers
who cite biblical passages to support a generic Jewish
view may be prone to oversimplification. I would
challenge you to keep a wary eye toward this type of
oversimplification in your consideration of biblical
sexuality.
As the evidence accumulates concerning marriage and
sexuality, it appears to me that one fact stands out
above all the others. The Old Testament record is
blatantly frank when it comes to the reporting of the
Israelite traditions and customs about sexuality.
Certainly, the rabbis tried their best to make sense out
of these strong cravings that erupted from humankind's
innermost soul, but their task was made exceedingly
complex by the foreign cultures that impacted them. Some
of their teachings seem more in reaction to another
culture's customs than representative of any systematic
view of personality or biblical teaching.
Another fact is becoming increasingly apparent to me
as I grapple with the wide range of opinions and beliefs.
There is something desperately wrong in the hearts and
minds of humankind, and that "wrongness" is
represented in what I believe to be distortions in the
way humankind perceive themselves as well as how they
perceive their relationships to each other and to God.
These distortions are not covered over or minimized in
the scriptures. They are presented for all to observe,
ponder, and learn from. My challenge to you is to
consider how both the culture as well as biblical truth
has impacted your suppositions and beliefs about
sexuality. Have you fallen into the same mode of thinking
as the rabbis, who used biblical proof texts to
substantiate their off-the-wall notions about their
bodies, their sexual organs, their sexual practices, and
their sexual relationships with others? How do you
understand sexuality? Is sexuality a gift from God to be
enjoyed or a passion to be controlled and sublimated? If
sexuality is understood as a gift from God to be enjoyed,
how do you place limits around sexual expression while
still enjoying the fruits of your sexuality, i.e.,
relationships with others? And how do you balance your
quest for human relationship with your quest for God? If
sexuality is to be controlled and sublimated in favor of
some sort of spirituality (e.g., in the case of the
rabbis, the study of Torah), then how do you balance the
drive toward human relationship with the quest for God?
Have you ever considered how the wrongness of which I
spoke tints or distorts your decisions and flavors your
reading of God's Word?
One of the evangelical's most cherished habits is the
way in which they criticize those who do not agree with
them. Many times, this criticism goes so far as to reject
altogether the person who acts or thinks differently.
This breeds an ugly form of exclusivism and
discrimination that appears in such forms as sexism and
fear, if not outright hatred of the different person,
e.g., homophobia. In our study of Israelite and Jewish
tradition and culture, we see this sort of thing
operating repeatedly. What begins as a quest for purity
ends up as a wholesale rejection of a person or a
culture. The net result is that God's desire for all to
come to a knowledge of Him is thwarted. The ministry of
reconciliation becomes all but impossible because we are
so busy calling out the evil in culture that we find it
impossible to share the love of God. What I am suggesting
is that perhaps your view of sexuality either promotes
your effectiveness as a witness to a dying and decaying
world or it stand in the way of your being an effective
witness.
One other thought strikes me as I review this chapter.
How prone are evangelicals to speak out against a sexual
practice when the biblical record is silent? The rabbis
were notorious for their use of proof texts to support
outlandish prohibitions concerning sexual practices. I am
sure that part of the dynamic here was their use of
principles and values that guided their thinking. My
challenge to you is to examine your deeply held
principles and convictions. Are they free from
distortion? Are they serving you well? Are they
consistent with the whole truth as revealed in Holy
Scripture? I am amazed by the number of questionable
proclamations quoted by evangelicals that are attributed
to God's will. Often, there is hardly a shred of evidence
to suggest that these commands represent God's
authoritative word on the subject. They seem more like the
prohibitions issued by some of the rabbis that limited
intercourse to the missionary position, without
conversation and in the dark! The principle of modesty
and moderation is certainly valid, but this principle
cannot be applied in the absence of other equally
compelling principles, e.g., the principle of love. How
prone are you in overemphasizing a good principle without
considering other principles as well as the context of
your application?
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